There is a saying that "Justice delayed is justice denied." Which of course means that we all want our injustice righted and as soon as possible. Whether we are victims or those accused.
I am of course thinking of the case in Florida where a 17 year old unarmed male returning from a convenience store was shot by a gun toting man intent on stopping all crime in his neighborhood. If it ended here, we would have a tragic and horrible event - but it went worse and became a complete tragedy. The shooter claimed self-defense, and the police accepted that, and the shooter went home.
So the family of the dead child had to put away their grieving to put their energy into the legal and political aspects of the death. Because officially their son was the aggressor and potential criminal, while the man who killed him was officially the victim of the alleged aggression. I don't see how a family can grieve and fight city hall at the same time. To them, their son was killed - murdered by a man who seems to be getting away with it.
How can one deal with one pain, when you have to focus on another pain? How does one heal even in the best of times?
and then there is the shooter and his family ... It's clear to me that they are suffering as well, but with a different and no doubt more confusing pain. We can instinctively know how a murdered child's family feels - how does a killer feel?
I've actually talked to folks who have killed and murdered, while they sat in jail wanting their day of
judgement - and I wonder if this man,who shot that child, thinks like they did. If he feels the responsibility of
his deeds. Or, if he deeply feels that he is the innocent victim, who only tried to do the right thing. And when I think of murder, I of course think of the unsolved murder of my cousin. Justice was delayed for some and denied for others.
When anyone is killed, whether by accident, manslaughter, or murder - there are no victors. There is only the grieving.